When it comes to expressing gratitude to a loved one or even trying to acknowledge the kinks and complexities of a relationship, it can be extremely difficult to find the right words, and even if you do manage to find them, arranging then in a way that doesn’t sound worn or clichéd is far from simple. Much time, energy and thought goes in to choosing the right card or thinking of the perfect gift. Of course, it is important to show how much you care but it is equally important to dedicate just as much time, if not more, on why we want to say thank you and I love you in the first place. 

With so much focus nowadays on practicing mindfulness to improve upon our day-to-day mental health and contentment, it makes sense to continue this way of thinking on all days of the year. By acknowledging our thoughts and focusing on the present rather than what needs to be done next we can help ourselves to be more attentive and joyful. So this year, I am making sure I take plenty of time to think about all the things I am grateful to my mother for; the advice I’ve been given, the weird quirks, habits and qualities that I’ve inherited, the powerful example I’ve been set and the unwavering support and honesty I’ve been shown. 

Originally, before the commercial aspects of ‘Mother’s Day’ came in to play, Mothering Sunday, was a Christian celebration specifically about visiting your ‘Mother’ church. Flowers were picked on the way and families would come together in their Church. As the day has evolved, from a celebration of Mother Church to Mother, it makes sense that it evolves further and becomes about all maternal bonds and the positive impact they have had on our lives. A day to celebrate that bond and consider the role they have played in the person that we have become. As John F Kennedy once said as we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them.   

Devneet Atherton